tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post4913263365222499005..comments2023-11-05T04:19:22.205-08:00Comments on Adoptee Journal: Sleeping to Avoid PainNinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12077857199651890460noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-41392023369244098492013-06-23T08:50:45.037-07:002013-06-23T08:50:45.037-07:00I haven't commented before but i've been t...I haven't commented before but i've been trawling through your blog for days. You really do have an amazing writing voice. I'm a writer as well... well i'm learning to let my self love writing. I've found you so inspiring. <br /><br />I read Primal Wound two years ago, it was given to me by my adoptee housemate. Him and i are special friends, two adopted children living together, it's a special indestructible, limitless bond. <br />Anyhow, the book opened me up completely i didn't realise how deeply in denial i was of how much pain i was cleverly disguising, to my own emotional and physical detriment. Since then i have been slowly researching and explaining and making these connections. It's like i'm digging a hole, deep down my true self is buried. Every shovel of dirt represents more trauma processed. It's a friggin deep hole. <br /><br />The sleep thing...<br /><br />My aMum had the hardest time getting me out of bed in the morning for school, i just flat out refused. She would TRY to physically remove me some mornings, other mornings i didn't wake up till after lunch. This has continued. If i don't have an amazing reason to get out of bed i will over sleep. With my partner, he needs to sneak out of bed as i'm likey to ENRAGE! And if he tries to wake me i feel myself decided to NOT BE WOKEN. I refuse to allow him to control when i am awake. Even if i need to get up for a commitment. It just doesn't matter to me in that state in the morning. My freedom to choose when i am awake seems far more important than any thing else. <br /><br />I'm so thankful for your blog. You're helping me dig my hole. :P<br /><br />KatinaKatinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-89434515892030798182007-10-24T17:01:00.000-07:002007-10-24T17:01:00.000-07:00Interesting, Nina. I have always been prone to de...Interesting, Nina. I have always been prone to depression, and when depressed I oversleep and overeat (it is more typical for depressed people to have anorexia and insomnia.) <BR/><BR/>Being prone to depression is clearly genetic, but my genetic siblings struggle with it much less than I do. So, while being adopted doesn't explain everything, it seems reasonable to see these very early experiences as a factor.Celerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00544121691434113671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-20753556263657969832007-10-22T17:35:00.000-07:002007-10-22T17:35:00.000-07:00Erika...Weird...shocking...but does explain a lot!...Erika...<BR/><BR/>Weird...shocking...but does explain a lot!Ninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12077857199651890460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-13471744389899378792007-10-21T15:05:00.000-07:002007-10-21T15:05:00.000-07:00Wow, i never knew this, it explains a lot.Wow, i never knew this, it explains a lot.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-42919171878125372242007-10-21T10:58:00.000-07:002007-10-21T10:58:00.000-07:00Hi Mia, Haven't heard of it, but now I'm curious a...Hi Mia, Haven't heard of it, but now I'm curious and will look it up. I'll have to pay more attention to what I do the next I drop off due to something upsetting!Ninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12077857199651890460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-41775084776227557272007-10-21T05:15:00.000-07:002007-10-21T05:15:00.000-07:00I read something recently about the subject of gen...I read something recently about the subject of genetic trauma. Have you ever heard of this before? Your post made me think about it. <BR/><BR/>Sleep is an escape for me too but I also grind my teeth something terrible so it really doesn't "go away" in dreams. I don't think it's really an escape like we think it is. I think we do more subjective rationalizing and allowing during sleep.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com