tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post2033918836743017061..comments2023-11-05T04:19:22.205-08:00Comments on Adoptee Journal: Adoptee SensitivityNinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12077857199651890460noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-23416348771863070152007-01-12T12:01:00.000-08:002007-01-12T12:01:00.000-08:00You know I bet if you search the word gratitude on...You know I bet if you search the word gratitude on every one of our (adoptees) blogs you will find at least one post on the topic. Probably several. I am with you, ungrateful and maladjusted are huge triggers for me as well. <br />Great post, great response to anon!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-8489290770869690472007-01-11T08:32:00.000-08:002007-01-11T08:32:00.000-08:00i found it offensive and rude to and try to commen...i found it offensive and rude to and try to commend joy for her support but blogger wasnt taking my id (lets hope it does this time). its not you. its that rude person. some people dont understand blog etiquette.suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00192108446381808647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-62946920719845444562007-01-11T06:18:00.000-08:002007-01-11T06:18:00.000-08:00Nina,
So glad that I found your blog. This is a ...Nina,<br /><br />So glad that I found your blog. This is a hot button topic for me - the whole sense of entitlement of some APs who feel so superior to the adoptees who are honestly and courageously trying to talk about the very issues that are inherent in adoption. To think that their child will be immune from any of the feelings that the more "vocal" adoptees express is arrogance & naiveness personified. <br /><br />And I actually think just the opposite of anonymous said about why people blog - - I think those who are willing to take an introspective, honest look at themselves and are amongst the most adjusted (though I take issue with that term, too). <br /><br />Sorry to go off like this. I just really have been struggling lately to understand why so many APs feel that they can vent, complain, and blog all they want about a host of issues pertaining to adoption, but do not want to hear anything real or honest from the people who have truly lived the experience. <br /><br />I loved the past few posts! Thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-84955072787548449862007-01-11T05:13:00.000-08:002007-01-11T05:13:00.000-08:00Damn good post Nina!!
That comment made me queasy....Damn good post Nina!!<br />That comment made me queasy.....you have now settled my soul.<br />Love your mind!!!<br />chezPossumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-15898524973132003512007-01-11T04:31:00.000-08:002007-01-11T04:31:00.000-08:00I should have edited my comment better...in the se...I should have edited my comment better...in the second paragraph, make that "atonomous individuals..."Doughnuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00100398955132921465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-29923806312018150332007-01-11T04:28:00.000-08:002007-01-11T04:28:00.000-08:00The Anonymous commenter on your previous post fail...The Anonymous commenter on your previous post failed to understand that even if there were "perfect" parents, that does not mean that there will be "perfect" kids anymore than maladjusted, dysfunctional parents will produce only maladjusted, dysfuctional kids.<br /><br />Even in homes where children have every need met, there is no guarentee that the child will be a well adjusted, fuctional human being. The reason is simple. We have diversity and choice. We are anonomous individuals who can be and are influenced by our genetics and environment BUT we decide ultimately who we are and the path we will take. There may be a high correlation between raising children who have all their nurturing and physical needs met and being well adjusted but that doesn't necessarily equate to a causal relationship.<br /><br />Not only that, I would argue that we are ever on a journey where we are changing, growing, learning about ourselves and those around us. We can alter a genetic or environmental course by choice (and a lot of hard work). Tell me I can't do something...tell anyone who has some fire in them they can't do something...and see what happens. <br /><br />I find blogging or journaling to be a very healthy, insightful avenue for learning about oneself and getting feedback/support in their journey. Everyone has their own way of providing and receiving that feedback/support. I happen to believe that blogging is a creative way of expressing oneself and having the courage to share oneself/beliefs with others. Yeah, it has its drawbacks, but what doesn't? <br /><br />The fact that Anonymous is reading blogs tells me he/she views them as a way of learning. I hope that he/she continues to read, learn and become more sensitive to those who do blog and have the courage to share some very intimate details, thoughts and feelings about themselves. <br /><br />You honor us by sharing yourself Nina. Those who read should honor/respect what you are sharing.Doughnuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00100398955132921465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-44693909991842624552007-01-10T19:22:00.000-08:002007-01-10T19:22:00.000-08:00I don't know...
I think that it is in fact NOT fa...I don't know...<br /><br />I think that it is in fact NOT fair and NOT reasonable to post on someone's blog that perhaps they, and other bloggers only write about their experiences because they are troubled as a result of poor parenting.<br /><br />It insults all the bloggers AND all their parents. <br /><br />AND completely misses the point, the point being that ADOPTION itself IS problematic, there is no nice way to separate a child from its family, there just isn't.<br /><br />Adoptees AS cures for fertility IS problematic.<br /><br />If someone thinks it is fair and reasonable to post such an insult on someone's blog,maybe Miss Manners can help them because I can't.joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15658928829424953809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-53056656012424284322007-01-10T19:19:00.000-08:002007-01-10T19:19:00.000-08:00I didn't like the comment either, it was insulting...I didn't like the comment either, it was insulting.<br /><br />I don't think you are being too sensitive. If anon. doesn't return, her loss.elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09384756673501569994noreply@blogger.com