tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post116450776970654268..comments2023-11-05T04:19:22.205-08:00Comments on Adoptee Journal: Those (Unflattering) Birthmom PhotosNinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12077857199651890460noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-1164734745218929042006-11-28T09:25:00.000-08:002006-11-28T09:25:00.000-08:00I would also guess to some extent you had done wha...I would also guess to some extent you had done what many adoptees do - created some fairy tale princess or queen or super model as your first mom.<BR/><BR/>It can be crushing blow for the harsh reality to collide with fantasy.<BR/><BR/>I have another friend (20 something adoptee) coming to terms with some of the same stuff you are. Your blog has been good fodder for our conversations, so thank you for posting it.suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00192108446381808647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27818433.post-1164553702340133012006-11-26T07:08:00.000-08:002006-11-26T07:08:00.000-08:00I am just guessing your b.m.'s childhood is anythi...I am just guessing your b.m.'s childhood is anything but idylic. It is probably frought with all kinds of childhood trauma that she tries to escape from in unhealthy ways...the addiction to alcohol, the need to be needed by anyone (I am guessing she has some serious boundary issues). From what you describe, she sounds like she has lived a pretty "hard life" and the pics display that fairly well.<BR/><BR/>You were dealt some decent genes that were nurtured into what you are today...and from where I am, you are trying to make sense of a situation that just kept (and perhaps continues) unraveling. <BR/><BR/>I know in Wisconsin when parental rights are terminated, parents are required to fill out a medical history form that stays with the adoption records. Usually, this has the medical history of both parents. I am wondering if you are able to access it and if not, perhaps your b.m. could sign a release of information for you to get it. Also, the court has a file on you which should state who the father or alleged fathers are and you may be able to access that as well. Just a thought.Doughnuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00100398955132921465noreply@blogger.com